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My stated intent with this blog is to help my fellow Boomers navigate through the morass of issues that are facing those of us born between 1946 and 1964 as we age together.  I think I know what those major issues are; at least I know which ones keep me awake at night.  In the interest of democracy and the realization that there are most probably many, many other issues facing Boomers that I have not yet encountered I tried a little experiment:  I GOOGLED “problems facing Boomers” and,  in 1/3 of a second I received 565,000 responses.  Five Hundred and Sixty Five Thousand!  It’s no wonder I have a hard time getting the recommended amount of sleep every night.

The first thing that jumped out at me was a FOX NEWS report from last year that simply stated “If MEDICAREENROLLrates of disease and disability continue at their current levels, America will become a nation of sick, senile, disenfranchised, impoverished seniors, with too few resources to care for them and astronomical medical costs that will cripple our economy.”  Cheery thought, that, but it kind of sums up challenge.  I don’t know about you but I am not looking forward to living out my golden years as a depressed, sickly old man wearing tattered Dockers and an old flannel shirt waiting on the veranda of my government subsidized housing for one of my grandchildren to pick me up for an outing to the local park, hoping I can remember his or her name when they arrive.  So, I suppose Health and Healthcare that is affordable needs to be at the top of the list of every Baby Boomer’s worry lineup.

Then, it seems, all the concerns about Money and Inflation combined with anticipated Longevity for Boomer’s in general.  In simple terms, the Fear of Outliving Assets commands a high place on every Boomer’s list.  How to know when enough is enough, that’s the rub.  Assuming you think you have “enough” when its time to cut back and try to enjoy whatever is left of your days with our Federal Budget Deficit running in excess of $1 Trillion per year with no end in sight and accumulated debt at $16.5 Trillion and growing is frightening to say the least.  It seems we are being led to believe that allowing the Federal Government to keep minting money at breakneck speed is a good thing for our economy.  The believe that somehow we will spend our way out of our national fiscal problems flies in the face of all lessons economic I learned over the last 60 years.  The simple concept that was taught that when there is more and more currency in the system chasing a finite amount of goods and services the effect squirts out as inflation seems to have been lost in the current environment.  Thinking about a day when you might take that last distribution from an IRA account because your money ain’t worth what it used to be and it cost a lot more to live to that point than you ever thought possible and you are left with nothing but a meager monthly distribution from Social Security to support yourself and your spouse that is younger and much healthier than you – now that’s the stuff of which nightmares are made.

Another worrisome issue that jumped out at me, one I had not considered on my own because I have a committed and caring spouse, are the unique challenges facing Single Baby Boomers as they age.  I was somewhat taken aback to read that 1 in 3 of the almost 80 Million Boomers is either divorced or never-married or widowed and of that population of more than 25 Million Americans only 10% fall into the widowed category.  Among the commonalities of this growing segment is that they tend to be younger, female and non-white.  As a group, they become disabled at almost twice the rate of married couples and are less likely to have adequate health insurance.  The obvious concerns of who will care for them if they do become incapable on their own are exacerbated by the economic challenges of living alone.

Many Boomer’s are part of what is known as the “Sandwich Generation“; simultaneously having to care for family members that are both older and younger.  I think we all know Boomers that have been ensnared in that web with a living parent that needs a significant amount of care and children that have either never left the nest or have returned as victims of the challenging economy or other social problems.  The tax of the energy and resources on our contemporaries that are caught as the meat in the middle of this sandwich can be overwhelming.

Functional Decline is another concern of Boomers that I personally hadn’t spent much time thinking about, although I find it distressing that what I once thought of as my razor-sharp memory needs ever more reliance upon a digital calendar for prompts about the normal and necessary parts of day-to-day living.

Abuse, Neglect and Financial Exploitation have their own places up and down the roster of those things about which to be concerned.  I have a friend that is an attorney specializing in Elder Law.  Apparently, the need for this specialty is growing exponentially.

Death and Dying mixed up with cultural and religious beliefs creates its own menu of concerns for Boomers who want to have a say in how their own lives end.   How and when to make their wishes known to family members and the worries about whether those wishes will be honored are among the details that must be reconciled.

Where To Live is another challenge facing Boomers.  Layering the desires to be close to (or not) other family members, health care facilities, recreational opportunities, entertainment, shopping and religious facilities with the need or willingness to move from an existing home creates another set of insecurities.

My goal over the coming period of time is to explore these issues in-depth and other concerns that are brought to my attention with a focus on how best to attack each of the challenges as we age together.  If there is something keeping you awake at night that you would like to have me address please let me know.


One in five American adults smokes some type of tobacco product.  Astonishing!  In the face of irrefutable evidence that smoking significantly shortens life span and denigrates the quality of that reduced time the beat apparently goes on.  In addition to the guarantee of an earlier death, the economic consequences to the individual and society as a whole are staggering.  The Center for Disease Control (CDC) reports that 443,000 deaths occur in the USA each year related to smoking; Still; Really.  Lung disease, cancer and heart ailments are at the top of the list of those smoking related ailments that contribute to the earlier than necessary demise of smokers.

chemicals_smokeThe New England Journal of Medicine recently published a study wherein researchers discovered that quitting smoking at every age up to 64 can add from 4 to 10 years to the life expectancy of the new non-smoker.   The sooner the activity is stopped, the better the life expectancy.  The study concluded that both men and women that died in 2006 and were smokers at the time of their demise were about 3 times more likely to have died during the term of the study than non-smokers.  This disparity is partly attributable to increased health standards for the non-smoking population.  Consider also that among Americans that died of lung cancer in the early 1960’s women who smoked were 2.7 times more likely to have died from that horrible disease than non-smoking women, while men in the 1960’s died at a rate that was 12 times more likely.  Pretty staggering info that pales in comparison when you come to understand that by 2010 that both men and women that died of lung cancer were smokers was 25 times the rate of non-smokers.  Women, I suspect, caught up to men in this regard due to the increased social acceptability of smoking by females and the larger influx of women into the workforce.  The increase in the overall death rates is in no small part attributable to advances in health care that has helped to stem the tide of other life ending conditions but apparently not so much lung cancer.

We have a number of video tapes of our family when we were kids in the 50’s and 60’s, usually of family gatherings around Christmas time.  In almost every tape the adults are seen with cigarettes burning in one hand and a drink in the other while the kids are scrambling at their feet to rip open their presents – quite often with one or more of the female adults obviously pregnant.  Our parents weren’t being careless or irresponsible, the simple fact is they did not KNOW what we know today about the harm that smoking causes.  I remember my Dad quit in the 70’s; cold turkey.  It was tougher for my Mom but she finally gave up the cigarettes in the 80’s as best as I can remember.

I smoked off and on from 1971 until 1984 – I suppose because everyone else did.  Mostly I worked office jobs and even if you didn’t have your own you spent your days inhaling everyone else’s tobacco smoke because that was just the way that it was.  When I quit for good it was as much for practical reasons than concerns about my health; I had just burned a hole in a brand new tie.  It wasn’t the first time it happened but I was committed it would be the last.

What we know today about cancer includes the understanding that you don’t “catch” cancer like a cold or the flu.  While there is a growing belief that viruses may be at the root cause of some cancers, many cancers require an “irritant” to which we are exposed over an extended period of time along with some genetic predisposition.  And, in many cases, it takes a good long time for the cancer that may be growing inside of us to become noticeable to health professionals.  Consider the mountain of evidence that exposure of our Soldiers, Sailors and Marines to Agent Orange and other defoliants in Vietnam and Korea are now manifesting themselves in deadly lymphomas, prostate cancer, respiratory (lung cancer) and skin cancers – in many cases 40 or more years after the exposure.  Lots of these service personnel also smoked creating what has proven to be an especially lethal cocktail.  Consider also that defoliants have been in use for agricultural and landscaping purposes all over American soil, albeit at much lower concentrations than in the forests of Asia where we so indiscriminately sprayed.  There is a growing body of evidence that chemicals of many kinds contain the keys to unlock predisposed molecule of DNA toward cancer in those of us that possess them.  Tobacco products release a number of chemicals into our organs when inhaled including cyanide, arsenic and lead – known carcinogens  Placing one of these burning time bombs between your lips is literally playing with fire.

I remember when Obamacare (The Affordable Health Care Act) was first being debated and we were told that it would take a number of years for all the features and benefits, along with the resulting costs, to be calculated and understood.  What folks heard (or wanted to hear) was that the program would guarantee affordable health care coverage for everyone but that the details still needed to be worked through.  Since most of the remaining major changes that will take place are scheduled to kick in beginning January 1, 2014 those heretofore unknown details are beginning to squirt out.  Consider the consequences for smokers.

There is a little talked about provision in the Act that allows insurers to charge smokers buying individual policies premiums that are as much as 50% higher than non-smokers.  Estimates range up to an additional $4,250 per year for coverage for a 55-year-old smoker as compared to his/her non-smoking contemporary.  Younger smokers will be charged lower penalties but I think its safe to project those surcharges will escalate along with age and a growing body of evidence that smoking in and of itself increases the potential healthcare expenses for individuals over their lifetimes.  While it is widely believed that surcharges will not be allowed for policyholders that may be overweight or have other pre-existing conditions that potentially require more medical care than average, the discrimination against smokers is allowable and likely.

Do yourself, your family, friends and bank accounts a favor.  If you smoke, quit now.  If you don’t smoke, don’t ever start. 


Beethoven’s Moonlight Sonata is playing on the “Light Classical” channel on Time Warner Cable’s Music Choice.  The song is so beautiful it’s distracting me from the task at hand which is to get this damn blog under way.  I secured the URL a couple of years ago and put it in the inventory – it’s taken  me that long to figure out what I want to write about.

The truth is, I’ve known what I want to write about but I’ve let too many opinions cloud my thinking:  “Limit the blog to 1 or 2 subjects“: “Make sure you have something to market – and sell, sell, sell!”; “Find out what folks are interested in and then tailor your articles to those interests”. Blah, Blah, Blah.

Bottom Line:  Today’s an anniversary of sorts.  Two years ago this very morning I had my neck and tongue fileted by Dr. Paul Kim at Loma Linda University Hospital.  1/3 of my tongue and 30+ lymph nodes from my neck and shoulder went missing; all in the name of curing tongue cancer.  Dr. Kim is obviously so good at what he does that I sit here today able to eat (too well) and speak as if nothing ever happened in spite of the pre-warnings from well-meaning friends, acquaintances and health care professionals about what might very well have been.  Save for an 8 inch scar that traverses my neck like a badly drawn trail map that I like to call my “tattoo”, tasting or chewing anything on the right side of my mouth, whiCSL12411 (2)stling or sticking out my tongue, everything is back to normal; whatever that is.

Turning 60 this year gives me an absolute right to the name of this blog.  And, since I apparently haven’t totally thought this thing through in the past couple of years while continually mulling it over in my mind it may turn out that other Boomers will have an opportunity to write about their experiences here – I haven’t decided, yet.  If you have an idea that you’d like to share let me know and I’ll give it some appropriate consideration.  That’s the beauty of it:  For a few bucks a year this is all mine and I can do whatever I want.

So, what will I write about?

I know way too much about cancer; something I never wanted to study, believe me.   In 1998 at the tender age of 45 I was diagnosed with lymphoma after 6 months of not understanding why I felt like dog poop and had continually tried in vain to cough up my lungs.  My son, Geoffrey, died in 2010 at the age of 26 from the very same disease – absolutely devastating.  No other genetic link in our family that we can find.  Two of my best friends succumbed to the big “c” last year.  Other non-blood relatives and friends are currently fighting the fight.  I’m a Team Captain and Event co-chair for the American Cancer Society’s Relay For Life because it was the only way I could figure out how to fight back.  Layer all of that together and you’ll come to understand why I will write about cancer.  It has or will affect all of us in some profound way. There is no escape.  It’s important stuff to know about and try to understand.  It was a blog about the death of my son that unleashed the writing beast in me.

A paying writing “gig” tells me at least somebody likes reading the things I write.  I’ll bring some of that to these pages.  TripBucket is a website that is dedicated to helping its registered users complete their bucket lists.  They hired me to provide content because I can occasionally write a complete sentence, I suppose.  TripBucket also motivated me to start designing my own bucket list which is now bigger than I can possibly complete even if I live to be 100.  Not likely, given my history.  You’ll gain some exposure to TripBucket here as well.  The next item awaiting check-off on my list is a 40 kilometer (sounds more impressive than 25 miles, doesn’t it?) bike ride that I hope to complete in the next few weeks within the Tour de Palm Springs.  I’ll tell you how that goes.

I am a licensed Real Estate Broker and Mortgage Broker in the State of California.  I’ve held a broker’s license since 1986; a salesperson’s license before that.  I own a real estate business (with a partner) and I suspect you’ll read a fair bit about the state of real estate and business in general if you decide to follow this blog.

We have a really big family:  GIMG_0800randchild #6 is on the way before June 1.  6 children between my wife and me that have made everything from Public Safety (courtesy of the LAPD) to the art world their vocation.  6 brothers and sisters, lots of in-laws, myriad nieces and nephews, 2 ex-wives, my mom in the Texas Hill Country and my incredibly supportive wife of nearly 18 years – all of whom provide fodder for life’s lessons.

I like to cook.  I once took a class at the Santa Fe School of Cooking, ate the product and lived to tell.  I figure that gives me all the permission I need to share recipes and methodology for some pretty great meals.  I typically forsake the kitchen for the barbecue – I hate calling it the “grill” because it can do so much more.  And, I don’t particularly like to measure but I’ll do my best in communicating the formulas. I think men, in general, struggle for a creative outlet and cooking can so easily fulfill that need.

So here’s the deal.  I’ll write about what I want.  You let me know when you think I’m full of crap or you agree with what I’ve said and if there is something you want me to investigate and report back I will do my best, as long as the subject is interesting to me, too.

Did you know that Beethoven wrote the Moonlight Sonata for his student, an Austrian Countess with whom he was desperately infatuated?  Two years passed before he was able to come to grips with his inability to marry the love of his life due to his station in society and move on.  Hardly anyone knows her name.

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